Women have fire, women are fire, but when our relationships are on fire, we are often told not to fight fire with fire. My fire is something I often brought into my dating life, because given the modern dating climate, it was impossible to keep being nice, all the time. To continuously be a ‘yes’ […]
Stepping into your own power can be scary. The current version of you is peering over a ledge and hoping the version of you that you want to become will be there to catch you if you leap. On top of your own fear, whispers often line your shoulders with doubts from others about this […]
To evolve is magic,to chop, change, embrace the journey.But we are often told to avoid, to settle,to sink our feet into the norm. Quicksand. Now that you are here, you should just stay.The person you will be tomorrowis the one that you are today. “Sorry” I say. “I am not built that way”But I have exhausted […]
Walls and walls, winding and whispering, worried and worn. A single flower, fiery and rouge, sways to the left of the outside steps — a fighter amongst the weeds. The front door is towering with a powerful presence, enveloping the visitor with its webs and woe. It creaks open, breathing life back into the forgotten. Her eyes […]
Life is a journey. We arrive at destination A, not by choice but by chance, and then have a middle part before we land at destination B. As my parents say: “We’re all just passing through.” Nobody knows how long the middle part will last, it varies, yet, we’re always in a rush to move […]
June fell over the town, a sprinkling of sunny afternoons and outstretched evenings. Overlooking a river, an old stone wall was laughing, lined with teenagers sharing stories and a packet of bon bons. A row of wacky fun and vibrant colour — fashion was without rules and hairstyles were purely experiments. Striped tights, tutus and […]
You tell me you’ll text me tomorrow, and I don’t want to say this again, but you said that the last time, phone abuzz from everyone I know but you. I feel like I’m banging my head against the wall. Can I add up all these minutes I’ve spent waiting for this text? I wonder […]
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – the dating pool is polluted. And the worst part about that fact? In order to find the parts that aren’t affected by this pollution, you have to go swimming. No goggles, no swimming hat, no armbands, just straight in at the deep end. There’s plenty […]
Love collected me from my house a little before 3pm. I didn’t know it was love at this point and love didn’t know me, all I knew was the car that love drove so that I could look out for it. Love didn’t come crashing into my aura, it didn’t cause upheaval. Love pulled into […]
Love – the small word that is meant to encompass everything great and wonderful in the world, yet somehow, it can sound frightening. I don’t think love itself is scary, I think the fear comes when you’ve experienced losing it, because after that, love doesn’t always come presented as something beautiful, it looks a lot […]
“So it turns out his friend was seeing you before and he said you’re a psycho…” Classic. I continued munching on my dairy milk as I listened to my friend update me on how her latest Tinder date went. Ah the classic ‘Psycho’ line – a term he threw at me when I asked him […]
“Oh my god, imagine if this guy ends up becoming your boyfriend!” I adored my Mum’s lingering optimism when it came to my love life, she really held out hope for love after all the tsunamis of shit that had landed on me over the years. She was there through all of them – that […]
When I was single, there were many times when I thought things were falling apart. It would usually start with dropping my favourite palette at the start of the night, speckles of bronzer everywhere, and end with dropping my tub of burger sauce at 3am. And somewhere in between all these little collapses, were the […]
Twenty-something men are all things chaos, that is until they decide to schedule their random, out of the blue snap to you every few months. In that case, they are very organised and know exactly what they’re doing. Women book their nail and lash refills, fuckboys book their moments to mess with your head again. […]
I pressed play. This voice note came as quite a shock after the previous three days of radio silence, and his name was now lighting up my phone like a warning siren. We were back in that space again, that uncertain and chaotic limbo where our next steps could either be to block each other […]
We can’t see ghosts, but the world is full of them. Every woman we see – walking down the street, going into work, sitting in a coffee shop, driving a car – is haunted to some extent. On her shoulder are the whisperings of men that have lusted and left, whispers that trigger doubt and […]
