Keys? Check! Phone? Check! Every single triggering moment from my dating history? Check! My Dad always says that all we have is today. He’s right, yesterday is gone and tomorrow is unknown. So when it comes to love, how do we leave the hurt from yesterday’s men, firmly with yesterday?
The thing is, time is a softener, and some hands are more gentle than others. There’s no instant cure, no way to forget the hurt that caught up with us before, but at some point, I think it stops chasing us. Some men whittle us down to fleeting moments, they’re reckless with our hearts because they’re reckless with their own. And some men lift us up to everything that we are, all the things we are yet to become. In life, we meet the men who stop time for all the wrong reasons – the ones who keep us small, trap us within uncertainty, trigger insecurities, but life is a balancing act, so at some point we are destined to meet the ones who stop time for all the right reasons – the ones who bring moments we wish we could bottle up, except we don’t need to, because we know he’s going to stay on the journey with us anyway.
We meet everybody on different parts of their journey, perhaps that determines our place in their life. No man can say whether you are everything or nothing, no man can calculate your worth. We’ve given everything to men who dropped it to nothing, scrambled our way back to the top without them. And after all the chaos, all we have is today, we aren’t in our yesterdays anymore. You have to show up for the woman you are today, because yesterday’s uncertain love is tomorrow’s definite power.