Funnily enough, if we try to make contact to find our feet and figure out where we stand in the on/off/are we/aren't we relationship we are seen as clingy and crazy while the world's greatest escape artist running for the hills and completely leaving us in the dark is seen as the norm. Wasn't it going well? Didn't we have similar interests? Didn't our kiss send sparks flying? Didn't he appreciate how cute I looked with the dog filter? I put makeup on at 11.30pm for him! You start to come up with all these extreme scenarios in your head about his whereabouts - Is he back with his ex he was with four years ago? Has he gone into witness protection? Was he texting me as some sort of a sick joke all along? Am I going to be on Catfish?? You then rule out all of these when you watch him go through 3 girls in one night and then read 'Sorry, I'm just in a bad place at the moment' in his cowardly text back 47 weeks after you politely (demanded with gun emojis) asked for an explanation. You aren't really sorry though, are you mate? Where is this bad place many of today's eligible bachelors are living in? Hell? Their ex-girlfriends mind? Mr Big's shoes? I'd say that area is now sprawling into the suburbs by the minute at the rate us lovely ladies are being left in the dark re-reading all our sent texts.
After watching many different and also many similar experiences in the lives of myself and my friends, I have realised that as painful as it is, the truth is if he ghosts you he's not the one. Do you really want a man who couldn't care less if you go days or weeks without talking? Do you want a partner who is that cowardly? 20 years down the line he'll tell you he's picking up a takeaway and then you'll spot him in the background of a random documentary that was filmed in Peru. You coming back hun? Can you please let me know so I have an idea of how many potatoes I need to cook for dinner? Ladies, if he ain't gonna chase you, he wont wait long to replace you! May the ghoster become the ghostee!